Relationships go on to make life wonderful and sex turns the relationships into a beautiful world. However, it’s not just sex but the quality of sex that makes or breaks a relationship. Anyone feel guilty who is poor in bed but feels proud when they perform successfully in bed. Then it’s so humiliating when your partner tells you of your poor performance in bed. Well, what leads to performing poorly in bed?
1. They yell and tell you what to do
Do you find these words familiar “Okay, now touch there”, “hold my leg up higher”, “don’t do it like that, this way is better”? Well, these are only heard when you are sexually poor in bed. Every time your partner has to instruct what to do because you are unable to perform. It’s so shameful when your partner becomes the authority by yelling at you, making you feel poor at such an intimate moment.
2. You never try anything different
This attitude makes you look like an amateur, having no knowledge or insight in this sexual play. Hence, you carry on doing what you have been doing, taking no risk for something new or different because of poor confidence.
3.You never ask what they prefer
The reason for not asking your partner what they prefer in bed indicates how insecure you are to provide them, as you know you can’t. Having a low confidence becomes a spoilsport to enjoying the pleasurable moment. Think or you will regret later for not asking their preference in bed, as your partner will surely vote you poor because of your stale and low key sexual performance.
4. No sign of an orgasm
Women take a long time to achieve an orgasm compared to men, and it becomes worse when you are unable to even give a slice of that. Sadly, you aren’t able to make her reach that point because you’re totally powerless. We get your problem of being poor in bed and having climax before her, but still, you need to make some effort or some imagination in helping her to orgasm.
5. Both are dead silent
Silence is not golden at all in bed, during a sexual act. If one of you is dead and silent, waiting for the deed to be finished as early as possible it’s not a good sign. Maintaining silence with no communication makes the sex act poor and embarrassing because there’s nothing new happening, therefore, no spirit exists at all to perform.
6. You copy all your moves from porn
A copy is never a reality, it’s a lie and it can never be true. So think wisely, why to copy all your moves from adult movies? This gives a poor impression of you in your partner’s eyes because you’re not being natural. To get some ideas from porn is feasible, but doing exactly what they do is fake. Your partner will be able to feel that fakeness sometime and then you will look like an idiot. You need to think creatively in this field and develop your own natural sexual moves.
7. When they exit without informing
They may give some lay excuses and exit suddenly, without informing, now how far that is true, you may never know. The reason they sneak out from your life without leaving their number, without saying goodbye and leaving the door ajar making it risky because somewhere the sex from your side was very very poor.
8. Not being in proper shape
Sex involves a lot of physical exercises and an active sex life can help in losing weight. Though, it takes a lot of effort, time, and dedication before you succeed. Hence, not being in proper shape, means you are not fit and also have less stamina to perform any activity, including s3x in bed.
9. You don’t give any importance to foreplay
Foreplay is what causes the sexual arousal of both partners, as it brings a feeling of relaxation before the penetration. During intercourse, if there’s no vaginal lubrication, which usually comes from foreplay, then that will be a very poor act by you in totality. Foreplay accounts for your sexuality overall, otherwise, you are just counted as a ‘Ram-Bam Thank You Ma’am’ character. In other words, a selfish guy.
10. “Is That It?”
Nobody wants to hear these word because they think that the sex they performed was supposed to be their best act, but suddenly the partner utters “Is that it,” which basically means, is it over and nothing more. Now, doesn’t that sound shameful to you and confirm that it was one of your worst sex performance. Well, you think and decide for yourself.
11. Self-satisfaction is your priority
If this is the case, then you seriously need to replay and survey the entire sexual act. If they are turned on then you get turned on too and if your partner enjoys, you enjoy, it’s both ways and when this happens, expect tons of stimulation, fun, and ecstasy in the sex game. So think and stop being selfish.
12. You seem to be running the marathon
Sex is not a marathon session. Though there are many women, who prefer a quickie, if you wish to play the right game, then stop running and climb the steps slowly with kissing, then foreplay, and finally intercourse.