A relationship that we care about is very difficult to let go for all of us. There are times, however, where letting go of someone may be the best thing to do. After all, this is your life…and only you can make the ultimate decision whether or not that person fits into it.
1. You don’t feel positive after talking to them
You should be accepting of each other and supportive. If you hit a point where the positive aspects of the relationship are sporadic, it may be time to let go. You may actually come to a point where you attempt to avoid the person while hoping to maintain the relationship. This may sound crazy, but people do it all the time. “Maybe it’ll get better”, they think to themselves. Perhaps, but then it’s not a healthy relationship.
2. You are not able to depend on them
People that are undependable often find an assortment of excuses. However, a consistent behavior of this kind usually means one thing: they are not dependable. Someone that is not dependable is generally not a person worthy of your presence.
3. The person unremittingly breaks your trust
Trust is the foundation upon which a relationship is built, and it is mistrust which often destroys it. When you trust someone and they continuously break your trust, it’s not your fault, it’s theirs. It’s very natural to immediately blame yourself for having trusted someone only to have them break that trust, but don’t. It’s only through the experience where we determine whether or not someone is trustworthy; either way, you’ll learn a valuable lesson or add a great relationship.
4. The person is not consistent with their behavior
Inconsistent behavior is a potential sign of a negative relationship. Only you can decide if the behavior merits a termination of the relationship. People are flawed. Flaws are natural. However, it’s the degree to which a person accepts these flaws and continues to allow them to influence your relationship that truly matters. You should evaluate the overall health of the relationships that you hold and make the best decision for you.
5. They don’t make the relationship a priority
People that value their relationships will not allow the fact that they are busy to undermine your relationship. Understandably, the get-togethers and all-nighters are drastically limited. However, with the advent of technology comes the ability to stay connected to each other anywhere. If someone is not willing to make some time for you, be it a quick call or text, then they are effectively showing indifference – it’s probably time to let go of the relationship.
6. The person is incessantly needy
Too much dependence is a sign of neediness. This is a problem because neediness drains you of your time and energy, including the time and energy necessary to maintain other relationships and take care of yourself. People that are incessantly needy always seem to be coming to you – for pampering. If a relationship begins to feel this way, it may be time to let go and reconsider why you have a relationship like this in the first place.
7. You find yourself forcing someone to care
Genuine relationships are made up of two individuals that have chosen to love and care for each other. It’s easy for someone to show up in your life and tell you that they love you; it’s much more difficult for them to demonstrate that love consistently. Those that choose to remain in your life and steadily demonstrate their love and care are the type of individuals that you want for your relationships.
8. They don’t actively listen to you
A person that values your relationship will make your presence a priority, including when you’re trying to have a conversation. It’s certainly not acceptable for them to generally display apathy when you speak or constantly redirect the conversation back onto themselves, completely disregarding your feelings.
9. You change who are you around that person
You should never feel the need to be another person just to accommodate someone. It’s exhausting, first of all, and it is a telltale sign that the relationship is not consensual. Whether or not the person verbalizes their dissatisfaction with you or you innately know that you must change in order for them to accept you doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do not feel comfortable being yourself, which shouldn’t be acceptable to you under any circumstance.